wtf?!

okay so since this is my first blog.. i'll make it about something that has been on my mind all day..

i was in my english class today, and we had to discuss our definitions of a generation gap. i couldnt even come up with a definition. but i do believe that a generation is defined by what impacts it, what advances that generation, what political issues stayed getting printed in the newspapers, events that have impacted that generation as a whole. because we all know our parents went through different shit than we have gone through. then we got to talking about how our generation's views and perceptions are different than ours when it comes to a lot of things. like religion, sexuality, politics, relationships, etc.

anyway on to my point.. relationships back then truly differ from relationships now. sex has become something so casual, that it kind of defeats the whole being in love and showing intimacy thing.. my friend told me her mom asked her if she has had sex with her boyfriend being that they been together for a long while. my friend was hesitant to reply, and her mom was like "im just asking because i know you guys really love each other and thats how you show love." if sex symbolizes love why do we have it so freely? i mean dont get me wrong, ive only been in love with 1 person out of however many partners ive had. so im not all conservative on the shit. but how is that our generation has fucked up an act thats supposed to show how much you care and love someone? like today's love is nothing like that 40's love.. or that 50's love. i understand women now are less dependent on men than back then,, maybe thats why we have that attitude that we dont need a man in our lives.. just some sexual intercourse from time to time. and we degrade ourselves by agreeing to the whole "friends with benefits" thing because men off top come off saying "im not looking for a relationship" blah blah. so if no man is looking for a relationship why do women seek it? its like im on a hunt for something i will never find. omg and on top of that. dudes dont even know how to talk to women anymore. i give you my number.. dont text me.. call me. shit is so bogus nowadays. back then they didnt have email, aim, or text. niggas hadda go see each other, spend quality time. i dont know basically im trying to say i think our generation needs to reanalyze our views on relationships.. can you be with someone because you genuinely like them and not because you know in the end youre getting whats in their jeans?